You go to Northwestern, which means you know everything about Organic Chemistry, Renaissance poets or composing symphonies. But it also means you’re probably woefully ignorant about sex. Hopefully you at least know which hole it goes in (and you don’t try to pretend putting it anywhere else was a “mistake,” guys) but there are lots of rumors circulating around campus about sex. Even the state school kids get it wrong sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you should continue believing in these popular sex myths.
- A bigger penis automatically means more pleasure.
- You can predict the size of a man’s penis by his shoe size
- If a woman doesn’t get wet, it means she’s not aroused
- If a woman doesn’t orgasm, she didn’t enjoy the sex
- Women can’t ejaculate.
A lot of guys are insecure about their penis size. Duh. Many guys also forget that average penis size is about 5 inches when erect (although there’s some debate about this. But most studies come up with figures from 5-5.4 inches). And while penis size can be a fun locker room conversation (or contest), most girls care less about the size and more about the technique in bed. In fact, size shouldn’t even really matter to women. When aroused, the vagina extends to about 4 inches long, but can lengthen more if pressure is induced, meaning that most vaginas can accommodate themselves to any length penis. So no matter how big you are, it’s really all about what you do and how willing you are to please your partner. And practice makes perfect!
On the subject of penis size, a lot of people are under the impression that they can tell the size of a man’s penis by his shoe size. If only it were that easy, girls. A University College Hospitals study examined this question and found that there’s no relation between shoe size and penis size. You’re just going to have to get him to take off his pants if you want to know that badly.
You’re getting hot and heavy and she seems into it, but when you reach down to give her some attention down there, she’s not wet at all. Does this mean she’s not into you? No, not at all. When a woman gets aroused, her heart rate and blood pressure increase. Also, sexual areas can become engorged with blood, meaning the clitoral shaft gets bigger, the labia majora separate and the labia minora enlarge. Some women produce a lot of lubrication, and some produce hardly any, according to the UC Santa Barbara SexInfo site. So even if she’s dry down there, her heart’s probably pounding, and she’s just as horny as her guy. Just have some lube on hand to make things more comfortable!
It’s hard for a woman to reach orgasm during sex. While most researchers now agree that the g-spot does exist, only about 30 percent of women climax regularly. That means that most women who experience orgasms do so through clitoral stimulation. You can do this with your hands, your mouth, a sex toy or even dry sex. But intercourse itself makes it hard to rub the clitoris. So even if your girl isn’t one of those lucky 30 percent, she still probably likes having sex or she wouldn’t continue to do it. It still feels good to many women, especially if they have a close relationship with their partner. That being said, most women still won’t object to foreplay during which they can orgasm. So try some kissing, rubbing, fingering or licking to watch her go wild.
And you thought only men could do it. When there is direct stimulation to the g-spot and a woman orgasms (it’s hard but doable!), sometimes women release fluid. This can be embarrassing, and because of a lack of awareness of female ejaculation, women can mistake this for urine. Women do ejaculate through the urethra, like men, and their fluid is made up of the same substances as men’s (minus sperm). Not all women will ejaculate, but if things get extra wet down there during sex, don’t worry, she just came.
So now you know. A smaller penis can cause a woman to ejaculate too, a larger penis won’t always do the job, sex without orgasm is still worth it, and your new love interest’s size 14 shoes don’t mean anything. Sex is fun, kids. Go out and have it.